Impostor syndrome: why do I feel I am not good enough?
With impostor syndrome your successes feel accidental and it seems you are about to be found out, even though your experience and results say otherwise. It is not a diagnosis and not the truth about you, but someone else’s judgement you once accepted: “don’t stand out”, “you just got lucky”, “you could do better”. What helps is finding whose voice it is and writing down facts about your work, not feelings.
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Where the feeling comes from
It often grows where praise was rare and mistakes were always noticed. Or where you were praised for being convenient, not for what you can do. A child concludes: what I do does not count on its own.
Many women were told from childhood to be modest and not stand out. So when a promotion, clients or recognition come, what sounds inside is not joy but “now they will see I am not the real thing”.
How to tell a feeling from the facts
Take a sheet of paper and divide it into two columns:
- On the left: what I feel about my work. “I can’t do anything”, “I got lucky”.
- On the right: facts. How many years of experience, how many people trusted you, what tasks you solved.
- Under the columns: whose words sound like the left side? Your mother’s, a teacher’s, your first boss’s?
What to do next
Do not wait for the feeling to pass before you act. Take the next step together with it: send the proposal, talk about your results, accept praise without “oh, it was nothing”.
In the Ladder method such words show up as obstacles between you and your goal. The free diagnostic shows in 10 minutes from your phone which words hold you back the most.
Frequently asked questions
Is impostor syndrome an illness?
No, it is not a diagnosis but a common experience. If it comes with long-lasting anxiety or low mood, see a doctor or a psychotherapist.
Why does the feeling stay even when people praise me?
Praise from outside does not argue with the voice inside: the voice explains it away as luck or politeness. What changes the picture is not praise but you yourself calling someone else’s words someone else’s.
Is it the same as fear of making mistakes?
They are close. Fear of mistakes holds you back before a step, while impostor syndrome keeps you from owning the step once it is taken.
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