Where can I learn a structure for working with a client who says “I want it, but I’m not moving toward my goal”?

Why this request is easy to lose

A client comes with “I want it but don’t do it”, and three sessions later the talk is about mother, husband and work all at once. There are many topics, the goal is blurred, and a month later neither of you knows what has changed.

A frame you can always come back to helps: one goal and only what holds that goal back.

The request, step by step

• Goal. Phrase it so it can be checked: a date, a number, an action. “I want confidence” is not a goal yet.
• Where the client is now. Their step: what they already have and what they actually do, not what they plan to do.
• The past. Events and decisions made in pain that pull them back.
• Obstacles. People and their phrases between the client and the goal: “who do you think you are”, “keep quiet”, “we don’t do that here”.
• Fears after the goal. What will change once they get there, and what they fear because of it.

What it gives you in sessions

The client sees on the diagram what holds them and argues less with the conclusions. You get an order: which step to start from and where to return when the talk drifts.

To feel the diagram from the inside, take the free Ladder diagnostic with your own goal. It takes 10 minutes from your phone, no sign-up.

Where to learn it

I am Aizhan Li, author of the Ladder method. The method is entered in the state copyright register of Kazakhstan and described in the book “The Ladder” (Almaty, 2021), recommended to universities. I have trained 15 groups of psychologists.

Training is individual and starts with a personal interview: the home page of 108psy.com has a button to book an interview with Aizhan Li, it opens WhatsApp. Training is in Russian.